“Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend somewhere along in the bitterness…”
Somebody once asked me what is the worst kind of pain and I couldn’t think of an answer then. Today, as I sit down to voice my thoughts; I am aware of a part of me that is dying deep inside of me. I had once read that friendship was the simplest of all relations. You don’t plan before making a friend, it just happens like a spontaneously. Then there are friends who are somehow “larger than life”. These are the people you share your soul with, the people who become such an intrinsic part of your life that life seems impossible without them.
So how can such two perfect people fall apart? When does friendship become so complex? Even I am in the quest for the answer to this question. Distance was never the matter, nor was our dissimilarities. These were what brought us closer. The drift happened so fast that I couldn’t even understand what was happening. I didn’t know what went wrong and so I couldn’t do anything to control the damage. Maybe it was the communication gap, or maybe we didn’t just try, both of us too wrapped up in our petty little ego.
Whatever the reason, the fact remains that we have grown apart and the distance now seems impossible to cover. My advice to you fellow readers would be:
# your friendship is bigger than your ego. So stay humble. It is not demeaning to bend a little sometimes.
# set your priorities; you will know what is more important to you.
# Talk, even if it hurts discussing certain matters because talking stuff out helps you eventually.
#Have faith, and never break the trust of a person who believes in you blindly.
# don’t wait for the other person to make a move. As I mentioned earlier, be humble and step forward, don’t wait till it is a bit too late.
Now I can’t say if it would help and neither am I some sort of specialist in this area. But this is something that I learnt, and I learnt it the hard way. I always believe that if things are meant to get better, they will. So never give up, you might just save a dying relationship.